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Losing a loved one can really break your heart study finds

Tuesday, November 29, 2011
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If you have lost a loved one and felt like your heart was breaking, you have been right.

A new study conducted by cardiac researchers at Sydney University and the Royal North Shore hospital, have found that the loss of a loved one, like a parent or a partner, can really break your heart.

The study, which was run by Dr Anastasia Mihailidou, from the Sydney Medical School and a team of medical experts, was conducted to find out why people grieving the loss of a loved one feel as though their heart is breaking and experience heightened blood pressure variability.

The team, which was made up of doctors, nurses, scientists and social workers, examined the heart rate and blood pressure of 63 people who had a spouse or parent die in hospital. Their blood pressure was recorded two weeks after the death of a loved one and again at six weeks.

Not surprisingly, Dr Anastasia Mihailidou said all of the participants recorded at the two-week mark showed heightened blood pressure variability. But she said the more telling sign was when they were tested again at the six-month mark.

Although heart rates had returned to normal, blood pressure was still fluctuating.

"The results indicate that someone who is grieving and who is already experiencing blood pressure issues would find these problems amplified during or because of bereavement," Dr Mihailidou said.

"These changes aren't large, but if heightened blood pressure variability goes unnoticed they can cause problems."

The results from the study were then compared to results of a group of 78 participants who saw their sick loved ones return home from hospital. Their heart rates and blood pressure records remained unchanged.

Dr Mihailidou and the team are now working on the second phase of the study which involves treating those who are grieving.

She hopes the further study will encourage those who are busy caring for a sick or dying loved one are aware of their own physical health, as well as their emotional and psychological wellbeing.


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User comments
I lost my mother late last year and I still feel the pain. I almost feel like I have been left with an emotional scar that can never be healed. And sometimes it's not easy to talk to people about the pain as you feel that nobody understands it. It's that strong bond a girl has with her mother that makes the loss even more traumatic. I hope time heals this immense pain.
Reading this brings me back 20 years ago, when my wonderful dad was suddenly killed. I kept thinking, "my heart feels REALLY sore, a deep ache". I couldn't explain it any other way. I'm not surprised at the results of this survey. Now, people don't have to think its just in their minds and know that its just part of the grieving process. There's never a day goes by that my dad isn't in my thoughts. Time does heal...'you never get over it, but you do get used to it'.
As if losing a partner to another man or women is worst than losing a parent, partner or sibling to death! Are you serious! You have no idea at how offensive that statement is. Watching your mother die a terrible death to cancer, or losing your brother in a car accident without the opportunity to say good-bye or a grandparent who no longer recognise you- that is a broken heart!!!
I had a daughter she died from cystic fribrosis in 1985. From that day to this it still feels like yesterday, they say that you get over it and get on but you don't ever get over it. They say time heals everything and you get on with life, yes I agree with that but you only live because your heart and soul can't stop remembering everyday that happened. Hospital was my first home and home was my second home. My other two children suffered and missed so much because of their sisters illness but they were the rock for me and they never complained about it. My heart still breakes today and will for the rest of my life on the earth until I meet her again.
I am so pleased that research and findings are being published on this subject. When I first experienced it I thought I was imagining it, and then the memory of the books I have read came to mind,......'she died of a broken heart!'. We always thought that was such a dramatic line in a story - but it has proved to be correct!. When you are aware of this possibility, you can then treat yourself more kindly and with more understanding, rather than go quickly onto the medications and become dependent on them. One can pursue other forms of treatment such as energy work, meditation and understanding the symptoms and riding them out gently. Of course, it goes without saying one must be very sensible and work with the medical pratitioners but only work with those who understand and believe in these findings.
It has to be true because I remember feeling a pain in my chest when my father passed away 12 years ago. I went to see the counsellor at the time and told her the paiin is not just emotional, it's actually physical. She said at the time, 'Of course, your heart feels like it's broken, you've just lost your father'. The main thing to do when we lose someone close is to be patient with our grief and be kinder to ourselves. Time does heal, and i have experienced that, so we have to go through the process. I am trying to help a friend through her grief at the moment after she recently lost her father. It is hard.
Yes, your heart is breaking when u lose a loved one, but not only to death, breaking up or divorce, can break your heart, losing a child to mental illness, etc..... a lot of situations are heartbreaking, literally.
The results of this survey are no great surprise. There's enormous stress when your partner, dad, sibling or close friend dies, especially if you are co-dependant, or have been together for many years. None of us find death easy. I'd like to see a survey done on those who've lost their partner to another man or woman. In a lot of ways this could be probably worse because betrayal of trust and often humiliation add even more stress. The "death" of a relationship is traumatic and often very destructive, whereas passing away from accident, illness or old age doesn't involve other people quite the same way. A study on this would be really interesting.

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